MULTICULTURAL COUPLES THERAPY
In lakewood, and online across colorado, Texas, New medico and Iowa
You love each other, but your connection feels strained.
In the beginning, it felt like bliss. You were in your loved up bubble, your differences simply added to the intrigue and allure, and the stresses of the world outside seemed to fade away when you were together.
But over time, as you’ve contemplated or gone ahead with moving in together, getting married, or starting a family, your differences are causing friction and the stresses of the outside world have crept in. Work stresses, the effects of one or both you facing discriminated from the dominant culture, and cultural and gendered expectations held by your extended families may be weighing heavy in the relationship.
It is perhaps becoming more apparent by the day that you both navigate these struggles differently. With distinct coping strategies and communication styles, you’re struggling to communicate and feel a sense of togetherness across these divides. Sometimes it feels so overwhelming you just want to walk away. And yet you know you had something special together and deep down, you believe it’s a relationship worth fighting for.
You’re tired of:
Finding yourselves caught in unhelpful conflict patterns, whether that looks like blow ups, shutting down, or avoiding conflict altogether.
Not feeling truly seen or understood by each other, leaving you both feeling increasingly lonely and alienated in the relationship.
Making so many adjustments and concessions to each other and your families that you feel like you’ve lost yourselves and each other in the process.
how i can help
Multicultural couples therapy holds space for your unique relationship.
Navigating a multicultural, mixed, bicultural, intercultural couple —whatever label you use — is complex. There’s no clear roadmap and often when you’ve turned for help from friends, family, or professionals, it has felt like nobody from any ‘side’ gets it.
There are no one-size-fits-all solutions within multicultural relationships, but that doesn’t mean you have to figure it out alone. I can help you explore your own unique histories and journeys, and support you to build bridges of communication and empathy across your divides.
I’ll meet you where you are at, not adding more ‘shoulds’ or ‘musts’, rather making space for you both to bring your whole selves and really listening to you both without judgement. Being Spanish-English bilingual, we can speak in the language that you need to feel truly heard and help bridge any communication gaps.
imagine if you could…
Reconcile, repair, and find peace even when you see things differently.
Through couples therapy, you’ll learn how to embrace and work with your differences, with strategies on de-escalating and better communicating when disagreements arise. You’ll have space to repair relational wounds that have accumulated over time, and discover ways of being and relating where you both feel more secure facing challenges together.
Break free from unhelpful conflict patterns, where differences are no longer ‘problems’ but unlock new options
By unpacking together the complex and often hidden dimensions behind the tensions in your relationship, you’ll gain new perspectives and have the tools to address your issues head on. This will help you to zoom out from focusing on what you’re fighting about, to finding common ground within the question of what you’re fighting for.
Felt deeply connected, where all of you can be seen
Couples therapy gives you the chance to lean in and take a well-needed pulse check with one another. I’ll be genuinely interested to understand where each of you is coming from. Curiosity is a powerful antidote to loneliness and alienation in relationships, and together, we will revive interest and curiosity in exploring what you both bring and can offer within the relationship.
I want you to know:
You can open new channels of connection across your differences
Let’s work together to help you find common ground in your relationship. Yes, stepping into the unknown of multicultural relationships can feel hard, there’s no clear roadmap, but with help, these relationships can unlock new possibilities to carve a unique path that works for you both.
faqs
Commonly Questions about Couples Therapy
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Absolutely! I recognize how hard it can be to fit therapy around both of your busy schedules. So I offer the flexibility and convenience of online therapy, available to residents of Colorado, Texas, New Mexico and Iowa. All you need to do is find a private space with a stable internet connection and you're good to go.
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It's essential that you can speak your truth in this space and feel genuinely heard. Being fluently Spanish-English bilingual, I can hold space if either or both of you want to move between languages.
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Schedule a free 10-minute consultation where we can briefly discuss what’s brought you to seek couples therapy and ask any questions you may have. If you feel ready, we will schedule your first session and set out on the path of enhancing communication and connection in your relationship.
Ready to get started?